Mind
Quitting drinking is also an identity question. Who you were, who you are, who you are choosing to be. This section is about the part that does not show up on a lab test.
May 29, 2026
The day I stopped explaining
A short note on the moment when sobriety stops being a thing you defend and starts being a fact about your life.
May 23, 2026
What people get wrong about why I don't drink
The three assumptions strangers make at parties, and why none of them are accurate to the actual answer.
May 20, 2026
The version of you that drinks isn't your real self
A note on identity, alcohol, and the convenient story that drinking reveals who you really are.
May 17, 2026
I quit drinking and nothing magical happened (and that's the point)
The promotional version of sobriety promises transformation. The honest version is quieter, smaller, and more durable.
May 8, 2026
Why willpower fails and what works instead
The research on willpower depletion, why it makes a poor foundation for behavior change, and what actually predicts long-term cessation success.
April 14, 2026
What happens to your brain in the first thirty days without alcohol
The neurochemistry of the first month sober, in plain language. The dopamine recalibration, the GABA rebound, and why mood swings are normal in week two.
March 30, 2026
Why I don't drink, when people ask
The question is more interesting than the answer. A short piece on the different versions of the answer, and what changes about all of them over time.
March 18, 2026
What sober curious actually means
A definition that isn't squishy. Who the term is for, where it came from, and how it differs from sobriety.