Writing.
Long-form essays on the sober curious project. Practical, evidence-aware, not preachy.
May 29, 2026
The day I stopped explaining
A short note on the moment when sobriety stops being a thing you defend and starts being a fact about your life.
May 26, 2026
How my friendships changed after I quit drinking
The friendships that got stronger, the ones that got weaker, and the ones that turned out to have been mostly logistics around shared drinking.
May 23, 2026
What people get wrong about why I don't drink
The three assumptions strangers make at parties, and why none of them are accurate to the actual answer.
May 20, 2026
The version of you that drinks isn't your real self
A note on identity, alcohol, and the convenient story that drinking reveals who you really are.
May 17, 2026
I quit drinking and nothing magical happened (and that's the point)
The promotional version of sobriety promises transformation. The honest version is quieter, smaller, and more durable.
May 14, 2026
Why your hangovers got worse as you got older
The biology of why a night out at thirty-five hurts more than the same night did at twenty-five, even when nothing else has changed.
May 11, 2026
The hidden cost of drinking (beyond the obvious)
Money is the easy calculation. The harder one is time, cognitive load, opportunity, and the second-order effects that don't appear on any spreadsheet.
May 8, 2026
Why willpower fails and what works instead
The research on willpower depletion, why it makes a poor foundation for behavior change, and what actually predicts long-term cessation success.
May 5, 2026
What 90 days without alcohol actually does to your body
The measurable changes across blood work, sleep, weight, blood pressure, and cognitive markers in the most-studied window of cessation.
May 2, 2026
The truth about moderate drinking (and why it's mostly a myth)
For thirty years the consensus was that moderate drinking was net positive for health. The consensus has changed. Here's what actually happened to the evidence.
April 29, 2026
How to handle work events sober
Conferences, client dinners, holiday parties, after-work drinks. The specific dynamics of professional drinking events and how to navigate them without compromising your work standing.
April 26, 2026
Sober dating: what changes and what doesn't
The first date question, the relationship adjustment, the question of whether to date other sober people. Practical and honest.
April 23, 2026
How to handle vacation without drinking
Travel, hotels, beaches, dinners, time zones. The set pieces of vacation are heavily structured around drinking. Here's how to navigate them.
April 20, 2026
What to bring to a party when you're not drinking
A practical guide for arriving with your own non-alcoholic drink in hand so you don't have to negotiate with hosts or hover near the kitchen.
April 17, 2026
How to tell friends and family you're not drinking
The four versions of the conversation, and how to know which one a given person is asking for.
April 14, 2026
What happens to your brain in the first thirty days without alcohol
The neurochemistry of the first month sober, in plain language. The dopamine recalibration, the GABA rebound, and why mood swings are normal in week two.
April 11, 2026
Why is sleep so much better without alcohol
The mechanism behind the most consistently reported benefit of quitting drinking, and why the improvement takes a few weeks to actually arrive.
April 8, 2026
What is sober FOMO, and what actually helps
The fear of missing out is real when you stop drinking. The thing you're missing is usually not what you think it is.
April 5, 2026
How long until I feel better after quitting alcohol
A timeline of what typically shifts and when, from the first 48 hours through the first year. Individual variation is large; common patterns are real.
April 2, 2026
How many calories are in alcohol (and why it matters less than you think)
The honest math on alcohol calories, and why focusing on them is usually the wrong frame for thinking about whether to drink.
March 30, 2026
Why I don't drink, when people ask
The question is more interesting than the answer. A short piece on the different versions of the answer, and what changes about all of them over time.
March 27, 2026
How to do Dry January (without the white-knuckling)
Most Dry January advice treats the month as endurance. There is a version that does not feel like that, and it works better.
March 24, 2026
Non-alcoholic drinks that actually taste good
A real list, written like a critic and not a wellness blog. What is worth keeping in your fridge, and what is just marketing.
March 21, 2026
How to handle your first social event after quitting drinking
The first weddings, work parties, and dinners after you stop drinking are awkward. Here is what actually helps.
March 18, 2026
What sober curious actually means
A definition that isn't squishy. Who the term is for, where it came from, and how it differs from sobriety.
March 15, 2026
Alcohol and sleep: why you wake up at 3am after drinking
The 3am wake-up is the most universally reported physical effect of drinking. Here is what is actually happening, and what changes when you stop.